Seven ways to deal with anger
2007-06-27 02:07 PM | Posted by Abhinabha Tangerman | Permanent Link | self improvement
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Anger is a dangerous thing. Not only many relationships, but entire nations have been destroyed by human anger. Although anger can be of the quickest, there are ways to deal with it succesfully. Here are seven practical tips:
Slowly count to twenty-five.
Anger is like a ferocious storm that wants to take you on its poweful and destructive wings. If you can stay cool, calm and collected and slowly count to twenty-five, the storm will blow over and you'll be safe.
Jog in place.
If the anger-bugs have bitten you, immediately start running or jogging in place. Also you can go out and really run for ten or fifteen minutes. Your vigorous exercise will make you so exhausted that you will soon find all your anger has disappeared. This is not just cock-and-bull. Try it out yourself!
Repeat a mantra very fast.
As soon as you feel yourself becoming angry, start repeating a mantra in quick, successive repetition. The harmonious energy which the mantra invokes will enter into the anger itself and completely nullify it. It is important to say the mantra quickly, for the speed of the mantra must outpace the speed of the anger.
Take anger as your veritable enemy.
If you consider anger as something which is a part of you, you will not be able to rid yourself of it. But if you consider your anger to be a real enemy, you will not even allow it to enter into you. Take anger as a thief or a robber. Will you allow a thief to come into your house and steal your precious wealth. No! You will just scare him away or throw him out. Do the same with your anger.
Forgive and forget.
When another person arouses your anger, immediately forgive his mistake. Spiritual teacher Sri Chinmoy who has written extensively on overcoming anger, states: "Anger comes precisely because we are lacking in oneness. If we have the feeling of oneness with the world, then anger does not come." By forgiving the other person your anger will be replaced by your compassion. Then go one step further and forget the incident entirely. Otherwise the anger may come back at a later stage. We all make blunders; nobody is perfect. So forgive and forget and live happily ever after.
Think of what your anger has done for you.
If you are often a victim to anger, then next time you feel your pulse quickening just think of what your anger has done for you in the past. Has it ever done you a favour? If you can bring to your memory all the destructive things your anger may have caused, then you will think twice before allowing anger to have free play.
Pray and meditate.
Prevention is better than cure. When you pray and meditate you bring to the fore tremendous inner poise. Once you have this poise, it will be impossible for anger to even come near you. You will be immune to it. As Sri Chinmoy poignantly writes, "Anger blasts. Poise outlasts."
Abhinabha Tangerman is a freelance writer and a poet. He also gives meditation classes on a regular basis and is a student of spiritual teacher Sri Chinmoy. Abhinabha lives in The Hague, The Netherlands.
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